’09 Reflection

Thanks to a lovely blog I read, for reminding me of of my livejournal meme roots.  Everyone loves a good old-school survey.  If not to read, then to fill out.  I’d love to know other people’s answers even if you don’t care about mine :-)

Five things that 2009 taught me:: (1) Spending $$ out of your means is a bad idea  (2) Being married is a lot of work  (3) College degrees don’t get you a job very quickly like I thought  (4) Worthless people will never change  (5) It’s important to stay close to friends.  Life sucks without them.
Five personally significant events of 2009:: (1) My wedding!  (2) Adding on a new last name  (3) College graduation  (4) Being more social  (5) Learning to drive a manual car
Five things I want to do in 2010:: (1) Lose 40 lbs  (2) Find a solid job  (3) Eliminate most [if not all] debt (4) Write more  (5) Get a puppy
Five things I don’t want to do in 2010:: (1) Get pregnant  (2) Give birth  (3) Be unemployed  (4) Acquire more debt  (5) Have more family drama [not really in my control though]
Five things I love beyond all reason currently:: (1) My husband  (2) My sister  (3) iPhone  (4) Celebrity gossip  (5) New abundance of quality time with friends
Five things I don’t like with good reason currently:: (1) Family drama  (2) Local news  (3) High rent  (4) Cleaning the stove  (5) Being bored at work

1. What did you do in 2009 that you’d never done before?  I went on a vacation with a boy & I learned to drive stick!
2. Did you keep your new years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year?  I usually don’t make resolutions because I’m bad at sticking with things
3. Did anyone close to you give birth?  Nope
4. Did anyone close to you die?  Nope
5. Travel?  Husband & I went to St. Croix, VI
6. What would you like to have in 2010 that you lacked in 2009?  Feeling good about myself
7. What date from 2009 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?  January 10, 2009 – our wedding!
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?  Graduating college
9. What was your biggest failure?  Gaining so much weight
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?  Nope
11. What was the best thing you bought?  An iPhone
12. Whose behavior merited celebration?  Mine.  I think I did an excellent job of learning to be a wifey this year.
13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?  Most people’s
14. Where did most of your money go?  Our wedding & rent
15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?  The wedding (duh)
16. What songs will always remind you of 2009?  “At Last” – Jamie’s version
17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
i. happier or sadder?  Happier – I was really stressed about wedding things last year
ii. thinner or fatter?  Fatter :-/
iii. richer or poorer?  Richer probably
18. What do you wish you’d done more of?  Work out & read
19. What do you wish you’d done less of?  Eat & solely play WoW
20. How will you be spending New Years?  Spent it with friends :-D
21. Did you fall in love in 2009?  No, I was already in love.
22. What was the best book you read?  old Michael Crichton novels and The Wideacre Trilogy by Phillipa Gregory
23. What was your greatest musical discovery?  Lady GaGa – ha!
24. What did you want and get?  an iPhone
25. What did you want and not get?  a puppy
26. What was your favorite film of this year?  not sure I saw anything worth remembering
27. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?  I turned 23.  It was my golden birthday and was supposed to be wonderful but family drama got in the way.
28. What one thing made your year immeasurably more satisfying?  Having someone to share in the best & worst part with me.
29. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2009?  Sweat pants.
30. What kept you sane?  Good friends to hang out with and my supportive husband.
31. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?  Steve Carrell – I discovered & fell in love with The Office!
32. What political issue stirred you the most?  Obama’s socialism
33. Who did you miss?  I missed an old high school friend that I don’t get to see much anymore
34. Who was the best new person you met?  Didn’t meet anyone new, but I got closer to Ms. Brittney & I’d have to say that was pretty wonderful
35. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year

Through the good or lean years
And for all the in between years – come what way

Who knows where the road will lead us
Only a fool would say
But if you’ll let me love you
It’s for sure I’m gonna love you – all the way, all the way

Sunday Scribbling: Brave

I think 2 things are very brave*. (1) Marriage and (2) Not settling.

Yes, another post about being married.  As our 1st Anniversary approaches, I’ve been thinking a lot about what it really means to be married and how much I love it and the things I don’t like.

Choosing to permanently tolerate the worst of someone because you love their best is a brave decision.  Key word: permanently.  I heard someone say once that for “better or for worse” doesn’t mean “for better or until someone screws up” (maybe I even made that one up!).  I knew what I was getting into when I got married and even in Year 1, there were some times I wouldn’t have minded a do-over with someone new.  But backing out when it’s not pretty isn’t brave… it’s completely the opposite.  Forging ahead together when life is ugly is just as brave to me, as something cliche like being a solider or firefighter.   They don’t get to pick and choose the “good” parts of their job, why should a couple (or one of them) get to choose only the “good” parts to stick around for?

The other side of that is choosing not to settle for just anyone.  Dating doesn’t have to be a super serious venture all the time.  Even in adulthood, I don’t think it’s necessary to foresee possible marriage with every single person you go out with.  But it’s definitely cowardice to be with someone just because they make your life less lonely.  No one NEEDS someone else to be a whole person.  We are all whole people, alone.  The brave choice is to be single until someone worth your time comes along.  They are the one that should take up your time&energy.  Time&energy shouldn’t be wasted on someone you will obviously never have a future with (either because you know you won’t want to, or because it doesn’t look promising).  Being brave and not settling could apply to anything, really.  But in today’s economy I’m not going to say that you should hold out for a dream job when McDonald’s wants to hire you.  Use your head people!

Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.  Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me.

Ruth 1:16-17

*This idea has been sparked by:

10 People I Like, part 1 of 1.

Barbara Walters had her “10 most interesting people” interviews. I don’t know the art of interviewing people, but I don’t think Barbara should really be on the air anymore. She’s grotesque to look at, no? And her voice is annoying.  Also, I went away from the special, only interested in half the people.  The others were just “popular” and not interesting.  I don’t know about interesting, but I do know there are 10 people I’d love to meet and talk to.

10 people (dead&alive) I would want to meet and maybe amateurishly interview:

(in no order)

Anneliese Marie Frank – Better known as Anne Frank. She has been my favorite person since 5th grade when I read and fell in love with her story. One project in high school involved dressing up as a historical person, learning everything about them and becoming them. We were interviewed as our person and had to answer as them. I think I knew Anne Frank inside and out. It was awesome. Anyway, she made me love writing and reading and helped me deal with my own troubles growing up.

Noam Chomsky – best known for being the “father” of linguistics. I’m really fascinated with language acquisition and Chomsky started the debates for all sides with his strongly universal stance regarding grammar rules. Basically, that all humans have the innate ability for language learning. Others who disagree say we don’t and that it’s relative to the person, hence the name “relativism.”

Lauren Conrad – mostly because I’d like to know what it was REALLY like on The Hills. On camera and off. I’d love to know how much of that show was real and how much & what wasn’t. Also, she wrote a book about nothing special and if she can, I can!

Heidi Montag Pratt – also would like her take on The Hills. And I want to see what she looks like up close. Plus, she&her sort-of interesting husband just wrote a book and I will need to have connections.

Elisabeth Hasselbeck – I think she’s just lovely. I hate that she never is allowed to finish her sentences on The View, even though she’s the only one with a college education… HMM. I’d love to talk to her about celiac disease, g-free things and her political views since they are changing and I’d like to know why.

Sarah Palin – a smart conservative lady who doesn’t get the respect she deserves. What’s funny is she’s also smarter than the people who make fun of her. I look forward to reading her book and I think she has some good stuff to say. I want to know where she got her kid’s names, too. As I am an avid fan of weird names!

Steve Carell – do I really need to explain that I wanna meet him because he’s hilarious?

Britney Spears – she seems interesting and I bet she has some fun stories.

Michael Crichton – America’s greatest author. I don’t care about those “classic” authors who wrote the “Great American Novels” because (1) most of those books are boring and (2)Michael Crichton’s books are ridiculously well researched, informative and entertaining. He is terribly fascinating with his various background experiences and writing skill. I would have loved to meet him before he died.

JRR Tolkien – he made up his own language. He should get an award for just that! But he also created worlds&characters that turned into some of the greatest stories of all time. The Lord of the Rings books (& the Silmarillion) really changed how I saw fantasy lit. He and Crichton are really tied for best author, but Tolkien can be Britain’s greatest author, since America has one.

*Notice most have written books, either intentional or not. I like writers :)

Sunday Scribbling: Weird

As it is Sunday, I have dedicated this day of the week to explore the art of using someone else’s ideas.  I like to think of it as sharing…

Sunday Scribblings has the topic for the day: weird.

Of course, when I see the word, I immediately think of my favorite band of all time (Hanson) and their song, Weird*.  It’s about how “we all feel a little bit weird sometimes” and wanting to find someone who can relate.  Haters can make fun of Hanson, but their music is actually quite amazing. They often write powerful lyrics and always have amazing melodies.  None of their songs sound the same, which I find is common among other musicians I like. I think they also stand out because they are one of the few “indie” bands who have their own label, write original music, play medium sized shows, aren’t on the radio, and give to charities. I’m not a music snob by any means. I love me some Britney and Lady Gaga. But there’s something special about the musicians who take the time to write and play meaningful things (that also sound good).

Isn’t it hard, standing in the rain
Yeah you’re on the verge of going crazy and your heart’s in pain
No one can hear, but you’re screaming so loud
You feel like you’re all alone in a faceless crowd
Isn’t it strange how we all get a little bit weird sometimes
Sitting on the side, waiting for a sign, hoping that my luck will change
Reaching for a hand that’ll understand, someone who feels the same
When you live in a cookie cutter world, being different is a sin
So you don’t stand out, but you don’t fit in

I was and am pretty weird. A lot of my early middle school days were spent listening to this song. I didn’t get along with my dad, my sister and I weren’t best friends yet and I really never fit into any groups at school. I maybe had 3-4 close friends who had their own cliques. I, too, felt out of place for most of my school-days.

I looked the song up to see how others interpreted it and it seemed like a lot of Hanson fans liked the song because it said exactly what they were feeling. Doesn’t “weird” describe how must of us felt as awkward adolescents anyway? Only the special few got to carry that weirdness into adulthood.

4 weird things about me:

  1. I’m researching my children’s names before they are even conceived because they must be perfect.
  2. I enjoy writing “thank you” letters because receiving gifts is one of my love languages and I’m always truly grateful.
  3. I’m a grammar fiend. Not weird to me, but I’ve gotten plenty of complaints from those I feel the need to correct.
  4. I love dog shows because nothing is funnier than adults running beside a dog that they think poops gold nuggets.

I’m not *that* weird, right?

*Note: I haven’t seen the video in a while and I was very excited to find it. Their hair is long and their “dancing around” is awkward… don’t hate- it was the 90’s! I bet you weren’t looking much better…

What’s scaring me today?

So it’s technically Oct 31. Halloween. OOoooo scary, right?

Yes. Because all I can think about is tomorrow- Nov 1st, NaNoWriMo starts!!

I can’t believe I’m nervous for an online commitment! I made a real life marriage commitment in front of my family & friends… why can’t I do *this*? I have a few plots brewing, but nothing concrete. I probably should have made an outline, right? :-/ I’m bad at planning my writing though…

What I’d like to know is how no one cheats. You could spend a year writing a novel and then post it little by little every day of November…. hmm….

The other thing I was really scared of today was wondering if trick-or-treaters were coming to my door, ringing the doorbell all night. Turns out, no one wants to trick-or-treat in a huge apartment complex that has hundreds of front doors. Go figure. If there was a complex like that where I grew up, you better believe I would have been all over that!

What else frightens me? Fickle friends, hidden gluten in foods that look safe, and getting pregnant before I’m ready. But that’s for another post.