Since I just started a new job this week (yay!), I’m still *a bit* in grateful-mode. I’m so elated to be out of my apartment, thinking and interacting with grownups, that I haven’t minded the usual annoying stuff.
I’m not so grateful that I still don’t hate a large portion of society…
One thing that continually pisses me off, is when Christians do something stupid and use the excuse that God told them to do it. This is very common among young adults who want to be married and should probably wait, but don’t want to. For example, if you are 20 years old and do not have your life together (ie, working or in school) and you meet someone much older than you who ALSO doesn’t have their life together and you date for a few months after knowing each other for all of 3 days, then you probably should not join your lives together until death parts you.
What makes me the most upset, is that these people (who are supposed to believe in the same Almighty God that I do) believe in a God who is also as stupid as they are. We, as humans, are all dumb. We can thank Jesus for giving us free will to be that way. But God, in any religion, should be better than the people. He is the redeemer of the people and what redeemer says it’s ok to use marriage as the time to date a new person.
Now, this isn’t like knowing someone for years, being friends, and finally confessing your love and being married. This is meeting, a few weeks later you have been dating and then you’re engaged to be married in 3 months. I truly believe Jesus likes dating. It’s the non-binding mini-commitment between 2 people to get to know each other monogamously. And if after you learn things about each other and it doesn’t work out, you can part ways. Marriage is not and should not be like that. While you do learn new things about your spouse as time goes on, you already have a foundation of friendship and love to build from. There’s no foundation in these rushed “God told me so” weddings.
What will be interesting to see is how many of those weddings last over the next 5-7 years. I know of at least 3 that I will be keeping a stalking-on-facebook eye on.
I’d like to know who else this bothers. Sometimes I feel like the only one who has to work at their marriage even though we are good friends and dated a long time and are still in the 1st “honeymoon” year.