Tag: sad things

Blessed

Sometimes I shock myself with the amount of compassion I can feel.  I know I’m so blessed and maybe I’m just growing up and realizing how much I really have and how many people actually have nothing…  But lately I have such a heavy heart for people less fortunate than I am.

My family might be broken, but I can see a little neighbor girl’s family in pain and unraveling.  There’s nothing I can do for her (unless I suspect abuse, which I don’t yet) except pray.  I hear her cry many mornings when her mom screams at her to get her “f*cking boots on”.  Every morning this little girl has to go to school with tear stained cheeks, probably feeling alone and unloved.  I remember what it was like to have a parent on edge who yelled a lot.  Maybe that’s her situation, that will get better.  Maybe it will get worse.  I don’t know.  I don’t even know her name.  I know that I get teary when I think about her and hope someday I’ll be able to help her in a tangible way.

My finances might be in poor condition, but we are not poor.  We have so much.  This country has so much.  We wipe our asses with $5 bills and the people in Haiti live off $2 a day.  I am more upset that people have no compassion than I am for the Haitians.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m so sad for them.  I donated my $10 via the Red Cross and I think we will again – because really, $10 is the *very* least we can do.  What I cannot stand is when people get upset at celebrities for helping others.  So what if an actor chooses to donate their money to the cause of their choice?  What are YOU doing with your money?  No one can help everyone all the time.  I think it’s wonderful that people with a lot of money can help where they do, no matter their reasons.  Many US shelters are open because of donation, not because they are profitable.  I would like everyone whining about celebrity charities lacking National priorities (ie, they should be “fixing” US problems before aiding others) to reflect on who they have charitably donated to with their time and money.  If it’s no one, then maybe you should try living on $2 and see how you feel about poor countries then.

I might be unemployed, but I’m marketable.  This last year has been particularly rough on my family as there are several unemployed parents.  Parents with high level degrees, work experience and strong work history.  We all know they will find work again though.  There are those people though, who can’t hold down a job and who are struggling to feed their families and have no hope of working anytime soon.  I’m so grateful for my chance to be able to go to school and have a degree.  I’m so grateful for my working experiences.  They have given me opportunities for the career experience I need to get started in entry level writing jobs and they have given me excellent references.  I feel so sad for everyone who feels hopeless and like they are running out of options.  I could still become a career counselor I suppose… Again, there’s nothing I can really do for people except pray for them.  Which feels so trivial.  I want to donate all my time and money instead… and if I didn’t have a husband or need a job to pay growing bills, I might be able to do all three.

Banned Words?

Normally I don’t care about trivial linguistic debates.  Trivial debates include how to pronounce 2010, and the right & wrong of regional dialects.  (For the record it’s “twenty-ten” and “bubbler” is the correct term and it’s not the same as “water fountain” :P )

Most ridiculous is this list that’s put out every year of banned words and phrases from Lake Superior State University (basically some elite group has decided some words/phrases are overused or just plain silly so they want them banished).  This is a culmination of what should have been Tuesday’s Lang&Lit post and today’s Crabby post.

I’m not thrilled with this list.  First, because it allows some group of people to decide what words should and shouldn’t be used for usually dumb reasons.  Second, because some words that are listed are the ones that I want to explore further when I decide to go to Grad School.  These words are what make languages evolve.  Third, because who cares?  Most of these words are “banned” because they’re simply overused or the old-fashioned elitists don’t like creativity.

Why are people so against creativity in language?  I’m as conservative as they come politically, but linguistically, I think I’m more liberal.  Don’t get me wrong, I love correcting grammar and using proper punctuation, but I think when it comes to syntax and new words: I love the changes and evolution.  “Slang” can be an interesting way to study a culture.  In language learning, you don’t truly speak like a native until you learn their slang.  This still means that in certain setting it’s always a bad idea to call your boss “dude” and type emails in all caps or all lowercase.  I think this goes for blogs, too.  STOP TYPING IN ALL LOWER CASE, YOU MORONS.  You aren’t writing a mass text to all your friends, you’re putting your thoughts into the internet for people to read and comment on – do it intelligently, especially if you’re writing about nothing except what you’re doing this weekend and your new haircut.

The 2010 list:

In these economic timeswhat times *aren’t* economic?  I can see how this is stupid.
Stimulus yes, it’s overused and yes, it probably wasn’t implemented correctly.  Maybe it should have been called a Hopeful Stimulus.
Toxic assetsI had to look this one up… but I guess it means “bad loans”?  I don’t know… I kind of like the phrasing.
Too big to fail makes no sense – get rid of it.
Transparency meaning “obvious” – I think it works.
Appseriously?  What’s so wrong with abbreviations that are grammatically correct?  What else would refer to an iPhone application?  I’m guessing the people who made this list don’t have iPhones or this wouldn’t be even suggested.  They also must be bitter that they are technologically retarded and refuse to jump to the year 20-10. Ha.
Teachable momentthe main complaint I read about this word is that it’s applicable to too many situations… since when was that bad? It’s not a terrible phrase, & I don’t care if it leaves us but I’d like it if people had intelligent reasons for wanting it gone.
Obama words I don’t like him but why not name silly things he thinks or does after him?  Didn’t everyone love doing that with Bush & Bushisms?  Oh, I forgot, we can only make fun of conservatives.  My bad.
Czar “a high authority position”.  Not sure why people hated this one so much.  I don’t listen to the news so I wasn’t really annoyed by it.
Shovel-readymeaning “ready for implementation”. I think it sounds stupid so I support the vote to remove it.
Twitter/Tweet/TwitterholicI’m fine with Twitter and the annoying people on it and their clever new terms.  What I’m not ok with is this comment from a random guy on the LSSU website, “People tweet and retweet and I just heard the word ‘tweet’ so many times it lost all meaning.”  Since when does repetition make something LOSE meaning?  He’s from Mexico, we won’t take him too seriously.
Sexting* Sexy + texts. Makes perfect sense to me. I love this new word
Bromance*I’m a fan of all man-related blended words.  Mandals (man + sandals) is another personal favorite. This should never go away.
Chillaxin’* Chill + relax. It also makes perfect sense.

Be sure to check out past banished lists, the current list & people’s idiodic comments.

*I have a special place in my heart for blending as a way to make new words.  This was a hugely important way that Old English transformed into Modern & Present Day English.  The haters of blended words need to CHILLAX because languages change!  This is what I would like to study in Grad School – word formation and language evolution.

Golden Showers… of sunlight?

It was a beautiful, warm and breezy day today. A day that I spent holed up in the university library furiously researching cross-cultural color terms and writing a paper. My reward for my hard work was going to be an early Subway dinner in the park with my husband, to enjoy the last few hours of sunlight.

We arrived with our food and found a nice grassy spot far enough away from a family picnic to enjoy some quiet but close enough to the woods for scenery. Halfway through the meal, one of the guys from the family picnic near-by walked passed us on his way into the woods. I thought it was weird, but I’m not familiar with the park, so maybe there was a building or bubbler back there. He heads back to the picnic and I joke to my husband, ‘Maybe he just peed in the woods!’ I was kidding, of course. It was still day light, there were a lot of people around, and the woods are sparse and quite see-through.

Then about ten minutes later, a middle aged woman walked back to the same area in the woods. I knew it couldn’t be woodland-urination because ladies just don’t behave like that. Especially middle aged ones in cute outfits. Since we couldn’t see the previous guy or this woman after they got to a certain point in the woods, we really had no idea what they were up to and we wouldn’t find out until we actually got up.

The woman emerged from the woods adjusting her clothing, which was a good indicator that she had just gone to the bathroom there. I was a little shocked. I didn’t think people actually did that with an actual bathroom (and other people!) so close!

We joked about calling the police. If there was an anonymous texting feature for the local police, we probably would have done that. That family is lucky! They would have had three fines coming their way. Oh yes, there was a third. The third time, a guy walked into the woods, but not as far as the others… Had we wanted to, we could have watched him – he was that close. It was appalling.

I guess park woods are the new bathroom stalls.